Case Studies

Recovery from a long term relationship break up

Bonnie is in her late 50’s and self-employed as a counsellor and freelance trainer.

Dealing with the shock and dismay at how things have turned out
Feeling daunted and overwhelmed with the fact the financial burden is all on her shoulders
Feeling unsure about how to turn her life around again
Sadness, anger and frustration with how her partner is dealing with the breakup and how this is affecting her emotionally.
A wish to avoid being pulled back into any old relationship dynamics
Beginning to move on. Seeing more clearly certain aspects about the relationship that weren’t so obvious when they were living together

Assessment: - Where am I now? What do I want my future to look like?
Exploring the “how” of shifting from being in a relationship to being single again
Coming to terms with the shock of relationship breakup and the ‘after-shocks‘
Finding ways to move on that are healthy and positive
Rebuilding her life through identifying next steps, strategies and resources
Building confidence in herself as a single woman
Managing the fear around finances
Future intimate relationships and how to make healthy, loving choices
Strengthening her confidence to grow her business and income in the next 6 months

Increased confidence in herself and her ability to thrive in a new way in her life and business
Feeling resourced and grounded in herself
Positive solitude
Renewed courage and inner strength to move forward
Increased sense of joy and playfulness
Actively bringing creativity and fun into her life

Anne is in her late 50’s and worked as a medical professional.

Anne felt very numb and emotionally low (she had previously suffered from burnout)
Suffering from anxiety and stress linked to both family and work
Stuck but also had a strong desire to change her life situation
Knew things were ‘out of balance’ but didn’t know how to begin to change it on her own

Assessment: where am I in my life and career? What I want/what I don’t want
Increased focus on self-care and wellbeing from the outset
Finding strategies to reduce the stress and anxiety with her challenging family dynamics
Putting stronger boundaries in place of herself
Dropping the need to be in control of everything and any self-judgement
Exploring the roots of patterns of overworking/trying too hard/taking on too much responsibility and her strong work ethic
Rebalancing priorities and exploring what her ideal week could look like
Create more time for herself and fun things

Tracy is 55 and works in the corporate sector in senior management.

Stagnating in a role she knew she had outgrown
Stress at work due to high demands and an ineffective senior manager making her job harder and more stressful
Exhaustion and feeling she was on the point of burning out
Bereavement. Struggling with recent loss of her father
A desire to move to self-employment but lacking the confidence to make the leap

Assessment: Where am I in my life and career now? What do I want my future to look like? How confident am I to take those steps?
What are my values? What would I love to do? What transferable skills do I have?
Mapping the territory – the “how” to transition from employment to self-employment
Working through fear of the future and financial stability
Unlocking the pattern of being the reliable one who sorts everything out (the caretaker role.)
Unpacking old patterns of ‘over-giving’ and ‘being the reliable one who sorts everything out’
Action planning – creating a plan for the next 3, 6 and 12 months

Increased confidence in herself and her professional skills
She had the courage to hand in her notice and follow her heart
Moving from “ I can’t do this” to taking small actionable steps to make her desired career move a reality
Started a new career as a celebrant ( a much better match for her values)
Created an action plan and took the steps she needed
A sense of peace, relief and inner calm from letting go of the blocks in her way
Creating a new life with renewed passion and purpose